Human beings are compelled to play various roles in their day to day life. You are parent/child/spouse at home; you play different roles in your work places; sometimes a different role is being played with your friends or online. Thus human being is comprised on many identities and roles. As long as there are no conflicts, life moves smoothly. Sometimes people adjust quite easily. Sometimes it doesn’t happen. Such conflicts can be problematic, can create a lot of problems.
Today, I happened to watch the famous Marathi movie, ‘Natsamrat’. The protagonist of the movie is Natsamrat (king of theatre) — an established actor. He admits that his family was neglected during those 40 years of his acting. He left acting (not compelled by anybody) as he realized it was time to stop. But the characters he portrayed, the emotions and feelings of them continued to live within him. Such confluence of roles have affected his relationship with his children’s family. (Now I am not discussing here which side holds the truth/rightness).
Thus confluence of roles lead to conflict of roles in many occasions. It is all the more true for people who have take started living out one of the roles. I am not speaking of people who exhibits double standards. Probably one saying by Jesus would capture the life of such people. He would say, “A prophet is never respected in his home town”. Prophet and hometown are words which could be given wider meanings. Thus each amazing contributors to the world are prophets preaching an important message to the world. Now the question arises, whether prophets are accepted in their own close circles. In the movie, the protagonist had problems with his families because he continued to consider that as a stage. Jesus was not accepted/appreciated even by his relatives. Probably this is the same condition with many of the saints — they might be appreciated by all, except the family. For the outside world s/he is a prophet — actor, teacher, official, activist, helper. But family or close circles (hometown) doesn’t like that prophet tag being applied in the inner circles— especially if it is radical one.
This is a struggle in the life of pioneers or prophets — whose actions are radical and transformative. They struggle (many a times can’t) to dissociate their mission from their personal lives and it creates innumerable problems. But is there a way out? Probably the way out is stop being pioneers. Does harmonious integration happens in the life of a prophet/pioneer? I don’t know…